7 important lessons you can learn from failure in your 20s

Going through failure in your 20s may seem beyond devastating at the time. But when you reflect on the lessons afterwards you’ll forever remain thankful that you didn’t give up.

Your 20s are a time to experience lots of triumph, failure, love, heartbreak, amazing highs and crushing lows. You may meet friends that you may never meet again in life.

Most of us have been trained to avoid failures. We’ll do everything we can to avoid the pain & embarrassment that comes with failure.

But each failure carries within it some positive benefits that are hardly learned from success.

No matter how many times a kid falls, he never remains on the ground and wonders if he’ll ever walk. He keeps trying & trying until he finally learns to walk. 

I have learned from “Failure” to be motivated and persistent and vigil. I’m thankful for more life because those early failures served as valuable lessons to learn from today. It’s not over even if you think it is, keep fighting.

Perspective, patience and lots of focused attention helps.

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What life lessons can you learn from Failure in your 20s?

1. Failure opens your mind to learning and growth

Every time you fail – you can learn something:

“A finer way to make change.”

“Clues on how to do better”

Why is learning from failure important in your 20s?

Growth and development comes from recognizing our failures and knowing what we can do to improve and change.

Failure should be seen as action that just didn’t work out well. You can try again and even better next time. And again and again until you achieve your goal.

In you 20s and beyond, there’s no such thing as failure, only learning experience. Embrace them. Failure is when you REFUSE to learn from falling.

“Failure is most useful when you give your best effort. If you fail with a lackluster effort, you haven’t learned much. Perhaps you could have succeeded with a proper focus. But if your best effort fails, you have learned something valuable: this way doesn’t work.” – James Clear.

It reminds you to focus on the goal not the setbacks. No matter how long it takes, you can still achieve a dream if you just don’t give up.

You realize each failure brings you closer towards your goals.

And failure can just be seen as just a feedback.

Think of a Final year student that gets expelled when caught cheating. He’ll most likely say to himself, “if only I allowed myself fail that course, than trying to cheat.”

3. Failure teaches you to be nimble and bounce back faster

Think of David Goggins, in “Can’t Hurt me,” after going through a lot he was able to learn how to callous his mind and see failure as an opportunity to try again. Yes you can learn how to be patient with your goals from failure but it’s more rewarding to learn how to bounce back faster.

Learning how to handle setbacks means that you will be better equipped to deal with difficult situations in the future.
Failure teaches you why giving up is never the answer by understanding that every failure is an opportunity to learn and grow.

You can learn the importance of perseverance from failure; never give up on your dreams and persist through the tough times.

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seems to be no hope at all – Dale Carnegie.

4. Failure makes you Humble

How does failure make you humble? First, you don’t need to wait until you fail in life to be humble.

Success can be a very good teacher, however, we do usually learn more from failure because the outcome is unexpected.

What can you learn from your biggest mistake?

You certainly would need to take responsibility and admit your errors to learn anything from failure. 

How does failure affect a person?

It reinforces the fact that we can have different levels of education, class and societal status but never superior to another. We all can mistakes. We all can be corrected by others.

5. Failure helps you get out of your Comfort zone

If you’re afraid of failing – you may never grow or know the limit of your mind.

Think of climbing Everest, the first flight, exploring Space, breaking a Guinness Record.

This is what happens when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. Yes they practiced with lots of effort; but they were willing to fail.

Jack ma once made a statement:

“To be successful – don’t just learn from other people’s success story – learn from their mistakes.”

This has a positive effect on your mind – and whenever you experience such, your mind is already prepared.

Failure takes out fear if you let it  

So many people live their lives in fear of what could go wrong. There’s certainly a level of wisdom in being cautious and knowing your limits; but where majority of your decisions are based on fear, there got to be a problem.

Fear of failure is a powerful trait that helps nobody. It’s a conditioning we have as security but it’s an irrational fear.

You’ve got to expose yourself sometimes to what you fear the most; and you see the fear vanish afterwards.

You grow a backbone and become a stronger human which leads to victory.

6. Failure builds Character and allows you see the Big picture

How does failure strengthen a person?

You appreciate light more when in darkness. Every time you experience the others side of what you want you have a better perspective of life with what you learn from it.

Sometimes bad things happen to good people and there’s nothing you can do about it except pick yourself back up and carry on.
Failure can make you stronger and more resilient – if you let it.

7. Failure teaches you “What Not to Do” and how to turn your failures to Success 

Failure teaches you “one more thing that doesn’t work.”

By learning from your mistakes, you can figure out what not to do the next time you fail.

Don’t let your failures define you in your 20s – but let them show you what to do differently next time.

You can learn from your mistakes by taking the time to analyze what went wrong and making sure not to repeat those mistakes in the future.

How to Turn Your Failure Into a Success

You can learn how to turn failure into success by understanding what went wrong and using that knowledge to improve your chances of success in the future.

Use your failures as motivation to turn your life around and achieve success.

Sometimes failure is necessary for you to get where you want to go – all the reward goes to the one that doesn’t give up and learns all the lessons failure offers.

“My goal is not to fail fast. My goal is to succeed over the long run. They are not the same thing.”  – Mark Andreessen.

Can failure be a learning Experience?

Experience they say is the best teacher. Yes, we can learn from other’s experiences. But your failures are part of your story which you can learn from and tell others about.

I love a tweet from a Coach Steve Springer:

Our job as a coach is to help the player learn quicker through our experiences of the failures and successes in our career-to shorten his/her learning span and become a better player earlier than if they where to experience there failures and successes on there own to learn.”

Why do we experience failure? Your failures are part of your personal experiences which you can learn from and tell others about.

You can’t buy experience. You can’t fake it. It’s your story which you can share to the world and use to connect to others as people love stories they can relate to.

Can failure make a person stronger?

I appreciate people that view life with a perspective like this:

“Failure has never hurt me. It’s what i do with the failures that will make or break me.”

We can learn to accept imperfection as a gift. We also gain the knowledge to be better prepared in the future for what life throws away.


In your 20s, failure teaches you to respect who you are still becoming by – stumbling, falling, and getting up repeatedly. Its decade of life lessons, love, laughter, tears, success, failure and much more!

What do you call someone who goes out of their comfort zone? That’s the perspective of a winner.

Growth doesn’t mean perfection. Strive to be honest, admit to failures, learn to ask for and to give forgiveness, love, and allow yourself to be loved. ― Farshad Asl.

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