10 Benefits of Focusing on Yourself: Are you trying too hard or not enough

Do you want to improve your business, health, relationships beyond your imagination?

You need to focus on yourself because you’re the only one who can change your life.

Sometimes you hear people tell you:

“You’re too quiet,

“too dumb”

“too black”

All you have to do in life is ignore the labels people give you and focus on improving yourself.

10 Benefits of focusing on yourself

1) You’re more likely to achieve your goals and reach your full potential.

You can’t pour water from an empty jug.

Fill yours up first.

Focusing on yourself gives you the time and energy needed to help others in a more meaningful way.

Spend time in:

  • reflection
  • meditation
  • self-assessment
  • setting goals
  • taking action

Don’t lie to yourself. If you’re having trouble achieving your goals, you should be honest with yourself about why.

Try to come up with a plan to help you succeed after you’ve reached an agreement.

2) Become Confident

When you focus on yourself, you naturally become more confident and comfortable in who you are, which attracts others to you.

Focusing on yourself allows you to be more clearheaded and make better decisions which increases Confidence.

3) Build Resilience

If you don’t focus on yourself, you’ll never truly know who you are or what you want in life.

Why are you doing what you are doing?

Who are you doing it for?

Focusing on yourself teaches how to stop being afraid of going through pain and challenges.

A strong man needs to go through a lot of pain, tears & sweat to build himself.

4) Become healthier

Focusing on improving yourself is the key to reduce stress and improving the the quality of your life overall.

When you focus on taking care of yourself, both physically and emotionally, it helps reduce stress and improves the quality of your life overall.

5) Build your gut feelings

Want to make faster and wiser decisions in the future? Start listening to your gut feeling.

Your gut is most times right. Successful people know how no matter how great something seems, the moment it stops feeling right, they pull back their energy.

6) Be in control of your own happiness, goals, and decisions.

There’ll always be someone smarter, richer or stronger than you.

Focusing on how others are doing unhealthily would lead to unhappiness & burnout.

When you focus on your own success, goals and decisions rather  than trying to please others, you are more likely to achieve your goals.

It’s impossible to please everyone all the time, so stop trying and just focus on making yourself happy.

7) Hold yourself accountable.

Learn to expect little from people and more from yourself.

Hold yourself first accountable.

You don’t have to prove nothing to anyone.

Focus on learning from your mistakes, building character, becoming a better version of yourself.

We always overestimate what we can do short term and underestimate what we can do long term.

8) Invest in yourself

Investing in yourself is the greatest investment. You may be one investment away from creating the life and business of your dreams.⁣

Success is a direct reflection of how much you grow yourself. Its possible you have next to no idea how you’d fulfill your first few clients, yet you can find a way if you focus on building yourself.

9) Live in the present

Focusing on yourself allows you to be more present in the moment and appreciate the good things happening in your life more fully.

10) Better Relationships 

Key to success & attraction. Focus on changing yourself, not others.

Focus on building yourself before dating.

By focusing on improving yourself, you inspire those around you to do the same which creates a domino effect of positivity in your relationships.

How do you focus more on yourself and not on others

Sometimes when you focus on yourself you start thinking whether you’re “too hard on yourself” or “not trying enough”.

Too Hard on Yourself:  You’re putting too much pressure on yourself and not enjoying the process.

Not trying hard enough: you’re not living up to your potential.

No matter where you are right now. You need to stop any form of self-sabotage.

1) Trust the Process

The key to success is to trust the process.

Most people think success is linear and can be fully predicted. Jeff Bezos quit his high paying job to start a company. He transitioned from selling physical books to creating one of the world’s largest online store – Amazon.

Could anybody have predicted Amazon’s success from start? I doubt much.

2) Quit the perfection mentality

Learn to be more forgiving of your mistakes and celebrate your successes. Good enough and done is better than perfect but imagined.

3) Let your Vision be greater than your fears

Are you willing to let your feelings, fears and self-doubt get the best of you? Make sure you set a purpose that is much bigger than yourself and give everything to maintain that focus.⁣ ⁣

4) Prioritize self-care

Self-care includes:

  • Proper rest & deep sleep
  • Quality diet for nutrition and recovery
  • Meditation for stress management
  • Exercise for physical and mental health

5) Focus on creating impact over money

Money goals are amazing and needed and everyone has them – but impact & value goals are equally important.

Don’t just think about how you can make more money. Think about how you can help someone get the result they want.

Shift focus away from the money and focus on the value for customer

6) Create your own luck

And if you’re reading this right now on a phone or laptop… You’re one of the luckiest groups of people in the world.

“To be successful, you have to be out there, you have to hit the ground running; and, if you have a good team around you and more than your fair share of luck, you might make something happen. But you certainly can’t guarantee it just by following someone else’s formula.” – Richard Branson (Losing my Virginity)

7) Never let someone talk you out of your dreams

A lot of people especially “friends” and family would be skeptical when you go on a path that’s unconventional.⁣ ⁣

“What if you lose money?”⁣

You should get a real job.”⁣

“Most businesses fail…”⁣

Don’t give up when it seems the hardest. Keep pushing!

8) Think Long-term over “FOMO” 

To develop yourself you must grow past ‘fear of missing out’ (FOMO)

And focus on what really matters.

All the Gold is in thinking long term.


Focusing more on yourself is the key to breaking your own limits. 

Journal, exercise, meditate, have boundaries, say no often, work on your hobbies, side hustles

Key to success is: Focus on changing yourself, not others.

Taking the time to focus on yourself not only helps you
– avoid burnout but
– it also brings you more joy and contentment.


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