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The Power of Change: How Adapting to Change Can Benefit Your Life

Why is it important to adapt to change?

There’s been a ton of change in the 21st century starting from Technology, Resources we use, Migrational shift and demographic shifts.

Many of us didn’t know nothing about starting a business, had no money or savings and financially dependent.

Fast forward more than 2 decades ago since I was a kid things have changed compared to the old Brick and mortar business.

In the same industry, you can make thousands of dollars’ ONLINE by doing few things compared to the old way by:

  • – Focusing on a niche
  • – Doing something that Stands Out from the crowd
  • – Committing to learning and reinvesting in yourself
  • – And most importantly adapting to change.

Seth Godin reminded us in the book “Purple Cow” that the era of mass marketing and doing business to target everyone is long GONE.

Working only with head knowledge without pursuing personal growth education and doing things just like everyone else is a recipe for failure….. you’re either remarkable or invisible.

And most importantly the era of doing things without adapting to CHANGE is also done for.

10 Ways That Learning to Adapt Can Improve Your Life

1: Gain Clarity in life

Adapting to change can help you gain clarity once you understand your WHY and focus on building momentum.

When it comes to making changes in your life you have to know your reasons WHY.

Whatever the change is, be sure you understand why you want to make the change.

2: Personal growth

Accepting change can lead to peace of mind, improved relationships and personal growth.

The dramatic changes in my life I experienced sometimes are what was needed to shake and awaken me to change my environment, habits, mindset, and LIFE!

What obstacles or barriers did you have to overcome to get to where you are today? When you did overcome them how did you experience growth.

We must focus on creating that change within ourselves to experience true personal growth.

3: Teach us Flexibility and Resilience

Adapting to change teaches us flexibility and resilience, two essential skills for navigating through life’s challenges.

The best way to build resilience is to think how you’re going to make long lasting change? There’s something about being willing to risk it all.

Understanding how to deal with change helps us take control of our lives and destiny; it allows us to be flexible and change directions.

4: Challenge the status quo

Think of the 4-minute mile run that hadn’t been beaten. When he ran the 4 minute mile for the first time, Roger Bannister forever altered the sport of running.

Once it was beaten – a change of mindset surfaced and people started beating the record till date.

Adapting helps us learn how cope in difficult times by giving us practice at problem solving.

It also allows us experience life in different ways,

5: Learn new things

Trying new things and adapting to change can help you become more open-minded and flexible.

It can also lead to personal growth and new opportunities.

Change helps us learn to do what’s right for us.

If you want to be a learner and implement new strategies, be open to change.

Also let go of your past, you can’t go back and change it.

The only thing that can be done is to learn from the past and press forward!

Focus on practices that change your way of thinking! A changed mind will automatically act different, feel different, approach things differently.

6: Question assumptions

To start making a change, let go of certain assumptions or old ways of doing things, so you can make room for new ideas.

Sometimes we let our fears, pain, etc deter us from adapting to change.

Its important to embrace the idea of change since many people leave it to chance.

7: Change is necessary for Success

To achieve success we must make a decision from letting problems and things that happen affect us to choosing to change everything around for the better!

We must give up whatever things including limiting beliefs, excuses, etc that hinders our growth and ability to adapt to change.

Once you make the decision to change, you must practice that new behavior one day at a time until it becomes a habit – a lasting change.

8: Find new Opportunities

Are you lost in frustration, stress or anxiety; and it seems like everything is going through chaos.

When we embrace change, we are showing ourselves that we are open to new possibilities and willing to grow. This positive attitude can lead to success in all areas of our lives.

In times when you felt fear you felt because you didn’t know how to how to change you life?

A single decision and change in perspective, everything changes.

9: Learning to Adapt Can Make You a Better Person

According to research, people who effectively alter their behavior typically go through a number of stages rather than changing everything at once.

When you’re open to change, you’re more likely than not going to encounter new people and experiences. This can make you a more well-rounded person.

How willing you are to adapt will decide how long it takes and how effective you are.

CONCLUSION

Change is inevitable. By learning to adapt to it, we can open ourselves up to new opportunities and experiences that we would have otherwise missed out on.

Life is full of ups and downs. But sometimes it’s challenging for us to adapt to change.

We must keep in mind, that we are adaptable and can make changes when necessary because of the way we were designed.

Always look beyond your circumstances and plan a strategy that will enable you to adapt to change!

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10 ways to Accelerate your Personal growth and development

Why do people shy away from personal growth and development?

You can always choose to ignore your personal growth and say everything is in your nature.

Or you can take the more authentic and wholistic route to consider which adjustments in your life can help you to thrive and grow.

What are you doing today to fill your cup back up?

Don’t try to change the world without changing your inner self first.

10 ways to Accelerate your Personal Growth

1: Become Self aware

This is common sense but can be hard. There are so many people that are blind to their flaws and sometimes we think they’re deceiving others only to find out they’ve been deceiving themselves.

Being vulnerable takes the most guts. For example, become self-aware of your ego, or how it’s preventing your from getting ahead, self-sabotage habits or self-worth trouble .If you’re ever asking yourself…“

What’s stopping the growth in your life or business?

9/10 it’s the person in the mirror.

Make a habit of never ignoring any loophole you have.

2: Focus on the Big 3: Health, wealth and relationships

Starting out in your personal growth journey may seem overwhelming.

The key is to focus on the widely important.

Then the growth you used to look at as a luxury and something you wish to do someday would become a necessity and a breath of fresh air:

1) Health

What steps can you take daily to improve your health even on a busy schedule?

Start with improving your Diet and Exercising on a daily basis.

2) Wealth

It may be hard for you to think clear or focus, give your best at your job/ personal business, learning every day to improve your art, saving and investing to build long term wealth etc when you’re hungry.

If you’re broke, learn to use it as a motivation, instead of a setback.

3) Relationships

Prioritizing and investing into your emotional bank account with others and building your faith with God.

Note all three even the last cannot function effectively if you don’t make changes INSIDE-OUT.

3: Give Vulnerability a shot

When you find people that call you out and tell you where you need to improve – make a habit of paying attention.

The best part is you don’t have to take everything they say.

Vulnerability is the greatest act of courage.

The majority of people around you especially if you’re successful would be either people who don’t want to hurt your feelings or “Yes-men” who have their main hidden motivation of being around you.

It’s worse if you’re the angry type and pick people’s words and so they’ll resort to talking only behind your back.

So if you want to accelerate your personal growth – don’t ignore people that call you out when you make mistakes or fail no matter how hard it seems especially when you know they have some good intentions.

4: Love Yourself

No amount of money, drugs, weight loss journey, women, muscle you build, relationships you get into can make you whole if you don’t love yourself – rather they’ll hide the real you.

Each day make effort to love yourself by affirming and eliminating negative self-talk from your life and journey.

Healing childhood traumas and broken belief systems is hard but a must if you want to truly live a life of freedom.

No matter what change you seek you can never feel fulfilled if you don’t learn to love and accept yourself.

5: The impact of past experiences on personal growth

Our past experiences shape how we grow as people.

Consider how your past has made you who you are today.

By looking back on your past and understanding how you’ve grown as a person, you can learn to value your personal growth.

6: Be consistent in your personal growth

The tricky thing about growth is that it isn’t linear. You don’t always grow in a straight line, or proportionately. But you need to be consistent and do the work to notice the changes.

You don’t want to take one step forward and three steps backward. That’s how you remain in circles and never grow.

Make the decision to be consistent with your efforts towards personal growth.

Don’t do things you know are good for you only when you feel like.

Focus on Discipline over motivation.

Make your personal growth a priority.

7: Associate with the right people

Surround yourself with the right people. 

Move with people that have the same goals with you and value personal growth so it doesn’t feel like work and you don’t feel isolated.

This cannot be overemphasized.

Change your circle if you got friends that are envious and debase your personal growth.

8: Have a Growth mindset

Personal growth starts with a growth mindset.

If you dismiss the need for growth you stay stuck with a fixed mindset.

The objective of a growth mindset is to learn.

Real Growth begins where your comfort zone ends.

Not from running away and staying in your comfort zone

9: Align your Values to your Goals

I’ve seen even smart people that have found their way to the top yet have no solid values.

And honestly that’s a turn of.

They’re still willing if given the opportunity to do all manner of things ethical, moral or not to remain at the top.

How you make your decisions might seem like a quick thing and not something to really dive deep on but it is one of the most important things you can do for your personal growth.

Align your values to your goals so you don’t feel empty when you finally achieve those goals.

Concentrate on pursuing things that are aligned with your highest values.

Understanding that any mistakes you make along the road will serve as learning experience and a chance to develop personally.

10: Stop comparing yourself with others

Personal growth is a You Vs You journey.

Sometimes we get it complicated and make it hard for ourselves.

Fact is everyone you meet in life is moving at different pace – learning different lessons at different moments.

It’s a two-way street:

Never feel you’re too good enough for the people around you so you feel superior or look down on others and never feel you’re not enough by looking down on yourself.

Learn how to be kind to yourself by being patient with yourself and not comparing yourself to others.

11: Bonus point:  Why Gratitude is Essential for Personal Growth

Being grateful for even the smallest things can help remind us of just how far we’ve come and how much we’ve grown.

CONCLUSION

Today is a great day to consider which changes in your life may allow you to renew, flourish and thrive in your personal growth and development journey.

“Life is growth. If we stop growing, technically and spiritually, we are as good as dead.” ―Morihei Ueshiba

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10 Tips to Stay healthy on a busy schedule

Here’s a guide to stay healthy even when you’re short on time.

It’s easy to let your health fall by the wayside when you’re busy, but it’s important to make time for your health.

Always fun doing lists like this. It reminds me of the little things I could do every day to prioritize my health and not to take life too seriously.

Trust me, this is beyond the 5-minute workouts stuff and carrying water bottles so you can drink 8 glasses a day you see everywhere as health advise for busy entrepreneurs.

Here are 10 tips for staying healthy even when you’re busy.

1: Journal daily

Do you want to have a calmer mind? Understand yourself better? Make time to journal daily.

It has good effect on your mental and physical health.

2: Eat healthy meals

Prioritize eating Real foods. How?

Plan ahead.

Meal prep or make a list of healthy things to eat during the week so you’re not tempted by unhealthy options.

Stay away from hydrogenated vegetable oils and most processed foods.

Too busy at work? Have some healthy snacks on the go!

Keep a stash of healthy snacks in your car or backpack for when you’re on the run.

Bring your Lunch to work. This would limit your need and frequency of eating out.

At home, Freeze food for Last minute emergencies.

3: Stay away from Refined Sugar and treats

First, high sugar diets are associated with higher insulin which is detrimental to good health.

Benefits of staying away from sugar:

  • – Lose metabolic fat (abdominal/visceral fat)
  • – Decrease your chances of falling sick to metabolic diseases such as obesity, diabetes.
  • – Better gut quality.

4: Maintain healthy relationships

The quality of your life can be measured by the quality of your relationships.

No shortcuts, people value genuine relationships.

It takes being proactive to make emotional deposits of love and care and showing others respect to maintain healthy relationships.

5: Stay Hydrated

Start your day by drinking water early in the mornings to aid in flushing out toxins from your body and help excrete feces.

Try vinegar & lemon water first thing in the morning; keep nuts & fruits handy; include protein with every meal; avoid processed foods.

Choose water over most drinks.

Eat Healthy foods as they keep you hydrated compared to junk that are high in sodium and sugar.

Take the time to drink 2-3 litres of everyday.

6: Intermittent Fasting

Limit your feeding window to at least 12 hours.

On really busy days 6-8 hours is fine so you have more time to allow the body rest instead of digesting food all day.

The simplest way to incorporate intermittent fasting to your lifestyle is to delay breakfast or skip dinner.

7: Minimize Alcohol

Apart from the social benefit of alcohol – you’re messing with your metabolic health (as your liver does most of the work) and your brain.

I don’t know anybody that’s happy to feel fatigued, suffer some form of memory loss or take irrational decisions when high yet we do it because of drinks.

Stop using drinking, smoking or sex to numb feelings whenever you have the chance.

Plus you’re making some companies that don’t give a f**k about you or your body damn rich when you over consume alcoholic drinks.

8: Supplement wisely

There’s no one-sized fits all with supplements.

Key ones are Multivitamins, Vitamin D and Vitamin C.

Don’t go for a supplement because its expensive so you think the value is in the price.

Do some Research, work with a Professional and use appropriately.

9: Do some Resistance Training 2 -3x a week

The body requires periodic stresses to stay healthy.

It doesn’t matter if you go to the gym or not – find a way to lift some weights or engage in strenuous exercise as safe as possible 2-3x a week.

Too much with a busy schedule you raise cortisol and become all stressed out.

Too little or none – you become a couch potato or start losing muscle.

The balance is where the magic happens.

10: Get quality sleep

It doesn’t matter how busy you are – you gotta prioritize your sleep. Getting enough sleep is crucial for maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Try to get at least 7 hours of sleep every night.

Priding on sleeping less is a short-term mindset and i call it “hustling backwards.”

Eat well and stay physically active during the day, create evening routines and prioritize your bedtime.

Recap

As a final note our health is amongst our most important priority despite our schedules.

Being healthy will improve your physical and mental abilities as well as your ability to earn more money.

It’s the key to buying freedom and spending more time with the people you care about.

Conclusion

Set realistic goals, create a healthy routine, stick to it as much as possible, and don’t forget to relax.

Time management is key – prioritize your health by scheduling time for meals and physical activity into your day.

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10 ways to Set Yourself up for Success in your 20s

What are some things that you do to set yourself up for success?

Successful people are not successful because they have more energy, are disciplined or hardworking than the rest.

They make conscious habits that set themselves up for success. Even when they fail – they don’t take it personal.

What does setting yourself up for success mean?

It means putting yourself in a position and developing a mindset where you act in a way that keeps you moving forward and make success more guaranteed.

You don’t give up when things get tough, but keep pushing.

10 ways to set yourself up for Success

1: Have a Compelling vision

Get clear on what you want your life to be about.

Have a “WHY”.

Not having a compelling vision, not knowing your why, would make you feel purposeless and non-motivated.

Its the Rocket fuel to your growth and success in life.

2: Show up Daily

Going after your passion and doing what you love can give you limitless energy but don’t get stuck in the passion thing or waiting for motivation:

They both find you as long as you keep pushing.

If something is important to you and moves you closer to your goals or purpose then learn to do them regardless of how you feel.

In order words, focus on discipline over motivation.

“Ninety percent of success in life is just showing up.” ― Woody Allen.

When you are consistent you make your subconscious aware of how your goals are a priority to you. The universe also conspires to make it happen at your set time.

Think of the “Law of Slight Edge“ popularized by Jeff Olson.

Get in the habit of improving by 1%.

3: Make your Environment work for you

This is beyond the stay Organized and Focused mindset where you want to keep your work area organized and free from distractions:

When I read the One-Thing by Gary Keller and Atomic Habits by James clear, I understood why sometimes you gotta eliminate the need for the use of discipline by just setting your environment right.-

  • Do you want to have a healthier home? Stop buying and stocking junk in your house.
  • Want to be confident outside? Dress in the most comfortable way you feel makes you more confident.
  • Want to make writing effortless? Sit at the desk or position in your home that you know helps you write more.
  • Plus write at your most creative hours – e.g. if your creativity comes at evenings – write at evenings and only edit at mornings..

4: Develop the Right Habits

Having the right habits is the key to setting yourself up for success.

Habits are the actions we take repeatedly. They become unconscious with time.

If you can be conscious of your habits – then they start working for you. Start with little habits – they’ll lead to the big ones.

Say you invest 10% of your income every month – then overtime your money starts working for you and you start reaping the rewards.

One reason i classify them as “right habits” is because you don’t do them at the expense of your personal well being.

  • E.g. Cultivating Gratitude – starting your day with gratitude can make you start appreciating life more and seeing everything in a new way.
  • Practicing Self-care especially in your 20s: so you can accept, love yourself and prioritize your body and mind.

5: Surround yourself with the right people

I know friends that don’t build nothing and always have stories about other people to tell.

I also know friends that have little spare time because they’re always up to something and investing time and resources on themselves.

Who do you think push me forward whether unconsciously or on purpose?

When you surround yourself with people that take their success serious and I mean in a wholistic manner in terms of time, energy and wealth – it rubs off on you.

Make sure the people you surround yourself with are positive people.

Positive people will provide support and motivation, helping you stay focused on your goals.

6: Set Big and Realistic goals

One of the best ways to challenge yourself is to dream big.

Think of this, it takes the same effort to set big but realistic goals and small but unexciting goals.

You limit yourself every time you think small. Learn to set Big but Attainable Goals.

Setting goals that are too high can set you up for disappointment, while achievable goals will help keep you motivated.

Have a clear vision of what you want to achieve and create a plan to get there.

Start by getting clear on your long-term goals e.g. Think of what you want to accomplish in the next 10 ten years so it can be your Inspiration.

Then align your 6months – one year goal to those 10 year goals.

7: Take Massive action

Grant Cardone is known to have popularized this phrase.

He wrote a simple book then “10x Rule.”

Not based on theory or his imagination but a principle he’s been applying all through his career.

Today he’s worth several millions and helps a lot of people invest into real estate.

This principle is based on the fact that most people underestimate the effort and energy required to achieve success.

So rather than expecting an easy and soft life – make a decision to take massive action starting from today.

8: Stay Focused

First, you gotta eliminate your distractions.

Distractions are the biggest enemies of success as they suck up valuable time, energy and resources.

Stop doubting yourself by staying focused.

Jumping from one shiny object to the other is not going to set you up for success rather is a recipe to giving up easily.

Remember, for things to work, you gotta make ‘em work. Believe in yourself and your ability to succeed.

9: Don’t be afraid of failures

Most people think of quitting their businesses and startups in just 3-6 months after starting.

No wonder most startups don’t continue after a year.

I learned of Shana who ended up becoming the first solider to win the Miss USA after 6 different attempts.

After all the failures she thought of quitting and a mentor who believed in her told her “don’t quit, keep working.” That was all she needed to make the next attempt which she ended up succeeding.

One thing I learned from her is this “Do not fear failure but be terrified of regret.”

Setbacks are inevitable, but it’s important to persevere through them and not give up on your goals.

10: Find a Mentor

A mentor can help guide you and offer advice on how to achieve success.

The learning curve is shortened tremendously with the benefit of a mentor.

Personally I’ve benefited from several coaches and mentors in different fields.

Mentoring relationships have the potential to last a lifetime if they result in friendship.

CONCLUSION

I’ll end with a quote from my Coach friend, Michael Yeung on setting yourself up for success:

“If you’re unpredictable, easily distracted, emotional and mentally exhausted all the time… your growth will likely be sporadic, and eventually become unsustainable.

If you’re consistent, focused, intentional and mentally alert… your growth will likely be predictable, and eventually, compound over time.”`

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How to deal with Anxiety: 11-Step Guide to Crushing your Anxiety

This guide will show you how to identify, understand, and overcome your anxiety.

Anxiety leads to moments of confusion and unproductive thoughts.

Thoughts have this annoying habit of popping into your head at very inconvenient times, such as when you are trying to sleep, or concentrating on an important task.

Sometimes you’re new to an environment and are anxious because you’re unfamiliar with their habits and routines.

It may be you’re trying to control something or someone that you were never meant to control.

Most Anxiety can also come from emotions which we shove down and feelings we’re not allowing out.

I wish I could tell you to just decide to let go and all the stress, anxiety, anger will magically disappear …but sometimes it takes more work.

11 Tips to Crush Your Anxiety

These tips will help you reduce your anxiety and live a more productive life.

1: Meditation

Meditations are a great way for to let go of one period of feeling off and shift into a more peaceful one which then makes it easier for you to not only feel better, but to come back to important tasks with a new focus to what you’re after.

It only takes a few minutes for this shift to happen. I find focusing on my breath an easy form of meditation I can do anywhere. It is definitely the easiest one to learn.

Mediation can help you observe your thoughts as a spectator, rather than engaging with them, it helps you to acknowledge the thought, and let it go, without getting caught up in it.

2: Practice Mindfulness

Excessive thoughts can trigger unproductive energy states that anxiety creates often. Cultivate the habit of allowing yourself to let go of your thoughts for a few minutes.

The first step is acknowledging that you have anxiety and that it’s normal to feel this way at that period.

Second is learning about what causes anxiety and how to cope with stress.

Third is setting realistic goals for yourself.

Be conscious of everything you do and feel and the steps you’re taking to get you closer to your goals. Identify what makes your anxiety worse and stay away from those things.

Mindfulness is an antidote to an anxious mind.

3: Do what you’re scared the most to do

Most times we’re anxious because we’re unsure of the outcomes. So we’re afraid to risk our efforts then we things half-heartedly.

This is a recipe for getting mediocre results.

Practice makes perfect

If you want to get good at something that’s making you anxious you gotta put in some work.

Normalize feeling the discomfort and do it anyway. The anxiety and fear is a protective mechanism by our bodies to stop us from hurting ourselves.

Whatever you decide to do should have a greater good for you beyond the present – so keep doing it despite how you feel and the anxiety goes away.

Anxiety dominates when the lap between action and thinking is large.

When you decide something you want to do. Don’t waste much time overthinking the how’s and the right way to do it – make the attempt.

Sometimes just by getting yourself out there – you discover the thing you were the most anxious about is NOT even what you want.

4: Find time to be in nature

Going outdoors in nature is one of the best ways to beat STRESS which increases anxiety and has several other advantages:

  • – Fresh air
  • – Sunlight
  • – The ability to take walks

Taking a walk is a good one as it not only shifts your mind, it also changes your physiology by moving your body.

All of these have an opposite effect on your anxiety levels.

5: Work on your mindset

You can develop an advantage over your anxiety levels when you work on your mindset. Your mindset could be stopping you from achieving your goals.

Take control of your thoughts, beliefs and attitude.

How do you get out of an anxiety state of mind?

When you work on your mindset you’ll start to shift things from the inside out.

Don’t believe everything you tell yourself.

When you relate an event to a particular feeling or your past – then you become slave to whatever emotions you’ve associated that event to.

The point is to be mindful of what you relate things to. Be conscious of your habits, mindset and beliefs.

You’ll feel more confident, understand your mind, and have faith and self-love for yourself and others internally through doing the work.

6: Get your sleep right

Sleep habit is #1 lifestyle habit that predicts your irritation and anxiety levels on any given day.

When you sleep 3 -4 hours a night because of work or your lack of priorities – then you risk the soundness of your mind to being anxious.

Power Naps are also effective Mental Resets when you’re in a place to take one.

7: Join a club or group:

Being around others that have similar interests can help you feel less alone and more comfortable

I joined NotePd and I started writing everyday and letting go of my anxiety to writing.

8: Step out of your comfort zone

There are things we don’t want to do not because they’re not good or healthy for us but we prefer to rather stick to the path of least resistance.

But how long can you stay there? How long can you bear the pain?

Is getting out of your comfort zone good for anxiety?

Staying within the confines of your comfort zone hinders growth.

You’ve got to make the decision to stop leaning only to comfort. Then you develop the courage to beat your anxiety.

And when you need to ask questions – don’t just take advice from random people or decide to go all out in life.

Be proactive about it. Think of who’s got the right knowledge and experience on this when you have a challenge, someone you deem it fit to be an Authority – reach out to such person.

Get used to talking to the right people as against complaining. Your Family, your Spiritual authority, anyone you know that has done that thing before, a Coach be of immense help here and provide support.

9: Focus on the widely important

Learn to discern the vital few from the trivial many.

Here’s how my Coach Friend, Michael Yeung put it:

If you want to achieve the most progress and results while banishing anxiety and overwhelm for good, you must learn to discern the vital few from the trivial many.

Because by saying YES to something (I.e. Random NFT trading course), we are indirectly saying NO to something else (I.e. Key profit producing activities, or a fun Friday night with family.)

Why is it important to focus on your priorities?

Maintain clarity on your priorities and focus on what aligns with your vision so that you can confidently scale up your impact and income while experiencing the time freedom you deserve.

10: Work on your Diet and Exercise

Exercise releases endorphins that have mood-boosting effects.

What foods to avoid if you have anxiety?

Some foods are known to increase anxiety e.g. most processed and junk foods while real foods are known to decrease anxiety levels.

Make effort to decrease inflammatory foods e.g. sugar. Eliminate JUNK and eat real foods.

11: Come up with a Plan while taking action

Failure to plan is planning to fail.

When I was the most anxious about my work in a particular organization – I woke up one day, came up with a plan and decided to change my life and boost my confidence.

  • Go to work Earlier everyday– this would help me gain familiarity with my work before the usual office chatter.
  • Double check everything I did or intended to submit to a superior.
  • Start taking more responsibilities instead of shying away from them even if it would mean me staying late.

Does planning help anxiety?

Having a plan can improve almost anything you want to get better at and crush your anxiety levels.

Overweight and want to get back control of your body and health? Don’t leave it to chance.

Can you Cook your own meals instead of eating out most days to maintain control over your ingredients?

You want to write everyday as a habit and don’t prioritize having a single Journal or think coming up with 10 ideas a day is too much? Recipe for failure.

12: Bonus point: Be Patient

Big things take time.

Stop stomping on your seeds.

Successful people think long-term as against only the now.

They developed the habit of not sacrificing what they want most to what they want now.

Allow yourself to grow.

Quit comparing yourself to others and enjoy the process.

Finally, check out these helpful visuals that can further help you deal with anxiety:

P.S: For more advise- See a therapist: A professional can help you understand and deal with your anxiety in a healthy way.

CONCLUSION 

You get nothing from worrying other than anxiety and a negative mindset.

We are in charge of our emotions and can decide how to respond.

Whether to think positively or negatively is up to us.

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9 things you must Give up to be successful

What do you have to give up to be a successful Entrepreneur?

Success may mean different things to different people.

And we might have various metrics to keeps score e.g. Money, Happiness, Our level of impact to the world.

First we must acknowledge success is a journey not a destination. Then we must be willing to give up things that don’t serve us. Success requires sacrifice!

9 things to give up to be successful 

1: Limiting beliefs

These could be beliefs about yourself or the world around you.

Whether you believe you have what it takes to be successful, confident, and fulfilled or not, you’re right.

Give up your self-doubt and limiting beliefs! In order to achieve anything, you must first believe that you can do it.

When you say, “I am unlucky,” “I don’t come from a wealthy home so I can’t go this far” “If only I had x,y,z, I could…” you identify yourself with failure.

Empowering beliefs, combined with inner certainty, is the force that drives you forward when your brain wants to quit.

Live the life you want by overcoming your limiting beliefs.

2: Excuses

Until we decide to commit to our goals we only make excuses.

The problem with excuses is everything you give as an excuse is someone else’s strength somewhere.

For example, when you say “I don’t have capital so i cant do X.” Someone somewhere is working their ass off and doing big things while also teaching others how to “start from zero.”

The first step is to become aware of our excuses and avoid making them because they close our minds and limits our opportunities.

3: Dwelling on the past

There are people who dwell on past glory and those who hold on to it to limit their progress.

The fact is your past doesn’t define your future, the only thing that matters is what choices and actions you make from today forward.

Nothing stops you from learning from your past but don’t let it be a stumbling block to reaching the goal you set for yourself and where you want to go in life.

4: Bad Habits

It doesn’t matter how “great” you are right now – bad habits can limit your growth and even shorten your life.

Everyone would benefit from making effort to get rid of their bad habits. It’s not a one step or one-off process. It’s something that has to be worked on daily.

What bad habits do you have that is stopping you from reaching where you want to be in life?

For Hunter, it was drugs, that lasted for several years until he found his freedom:

“Days would turn into weeks as I would fade in and out. My reality had become drug infested hotels, sleeping in the back seat of my car or random drug houses. It was a constant state of paranoia and psychosis…I wanted desperately to be sober but I just couldn’t figure it out.

It’s like I was drowning and couldn’t get my next breath of fresh air. I would have periods of sobriety but I couldn’t maintain it for long. I would often fall victim to myself.

Now, i have allowed sobriety to consume my life like the drugs did. Even though I haven’t had to live like that for a long time I will never allow myself to forget the pain that I experienced. It makes the life I have today even better. I wouldn’t trade what I have for anything. Family, friends, happiness, love, sobriety and freedom. Freedom is priceless.”

Take the time to get rid of your bad habits especially in your 20s.  Successful people focus on developing good habits and rituals that keep their body, mind and soul in check.

5: Avoiding Responsibilities

The more you shy away from responsibilities, the more excuses and complaints you make and blame game you resort to. This is a recipe for failure.

Give up your excuses! If you want to be successful, you must learn to take responsibility for your actions and stop making excuses.

Quit blaming everyone and everything for your problems. Hold yourself accountable and when you say you will do something you do it.

How many successful people have you seen complain a lot? Limit your time for whining and surround yourself with people who tolerate minimal excuses.

Successful people realize early no one cares about your problems. If you don’t like your situation then make effort to change it.

6: The need for approval

Sometimes we walk around wondering what other people think about us.

How about learning to make moves without seeking approval from anyone. The key is to learn to trust your guts and have faith to figure things out in the process.

Ask smart questions, make adjustments and still trust your judgment without relying on external validation or other people’s approval of your choices.

Give up your need for approval. People will always have different opinions, so it’s important to learn to value your own opinion over others.

If you need other people to give you all the answers or tell you that what you’re doing is right then you set yourself up for failure.

Start trusting yourself and avoid needing approval from others before doing anything.

In fact, when we seek approval from the wrong people – it can lead to them using it as a means to manipulate our minds.

7: The need to impress other people

In a social media age, it takes a snap of a finger to share each other’s status and progress.

We try to impress ourselves and even people we don’t even know.

Real success is You Vs You.

The only person you should be trying to impress is YOURSELF.

8: Fear of failure

Fear is the culprit behind most of our enemies of success:-

  • Procrastination
  • Playing small
  • EgoAnd
  • even some part of Addiction.

Give up your fear of failure. You must be willing to fail in order to succeed

Take that risk. Start that business!

Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear!

9: Give up perfectionism:

Perfection is an impossible standard to meet, so learn to accept imperfection and move on.

You must give up your preconceived notions of how things should go in order to be successful.

CONCLUSION

The trends I’ve noticed about what makes an entrepreneur unsuccessful are summarized above; in order to succeed, we must give up these things.

If you don’t give up those things, don’t be surprised if your business stagnates for months and months and months if you don’t.

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Personal Development

How do you find Hope in your darkest moments? 10 ways to Come out stronger

How do you find hope in your darkest moments?

I’ve had a few “dark moments” in my life. One thing I’ve noticed with most of them they follow similar patterns:

  • Triggers and Strong emotions e.g. anger,
  • Self-talk which could be negative or positive depending on my perspective and mentality,
  • Seeking company (misery loves company) or
  • reaching out for support
  • The Dark moments itself
  • Habits which I had as my default,
  • then Reflections and Recovery

The key is how to stay Hopeful not thinking we can eliminate dark moments from our lives.

If you’re familiar with Job in the Bible – he passed through a whole lot of dark shit and with all he swore to himself “never to Curse God.”

10 ways to find Hope in your Darkest moments

1: Change your perspective

Dark moments are Normal.

In our quest for happiness and appearing “firm,” some of us have brainwashed ourselves or let the “positivity” side of media corrupt our minds and we think it’s abnormal to ever feel low from time to time.-

You could be Stressed out from work or you might be experiencing Burnout.

Everything might seem overwhelming because it’s out of your comfort zone or might be new to you.

You might be struggling with your purpose in life or mission which you haven’t defined.

2: Become Self-Aware

The problem becomes when you remain blind to most of the events during and after your darkest moments.

Instead of acting in a robotic manner and resorting to your default habits – become aware of everything:

The triggers, your reaction, people who look out for you, those that didn’t and how you were able to scale through when you do.

3: Take Responsibility

No matter what happens to us – what matters most is how we react.

Take responsibility through your actions, positive affirmations and visualizations to find hope in your darkest moments:

What doesn’t help is thinking the situation is not our fault and we don’t have a role to play.

What helps is reassessing things we have full control of and taking advantage of them:

What’s your Diet like? or Physical activity of recent?

Take some time to reflect e.g. through Journaling.

Have you made any effort to de-stress as against numbing pain.

Use Affirmations and make positive statements about yourself and the situation at hand that you repeat regularly.

Visualization: picturing yourself in your future, happy and successful.

All this reminds me of Victor Frankl in the castrated pit in the popular book “Man’s Search for meaning.”

4: Minimize/Avoid Toxic Habits

I believe this has to be a conscious effort as there are only few people who do things they don’t regret during their darkest moments.

We engage in toxic habits the most when we want to escape from various feelings.

Anger or Control issues? – remember hurt people, hurt people. Would you rather be in control or let it ruin your relationships or life?

Drinking problems? – how about declining the next weekend invite

Porn? – delete apps, contacts or accounts that promote sensitive media

5: Connect with others who have been through similar experiences:

There is strength in numbers e.g. the popular Anonymous Alcoholic (AA).

When you share your story with others who understand what you’re going through, you will feel less alone and more supported.

In your darkest moments, you can choose to hang around people that only want to numb the pain further or see vulnerability as weakness or you can reach out to Safe people and find hope.

Surround yourself with Safe people. This step can determine your possibility of relapse any time soon or create a story worth listening to.

6: Give yourself time to grieve

It’s important to allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions after a traumatic event. Suppressing your feelings will only delay the healing process.

Time Heals if we let it.

I can still remember when I was goggling everyday “How to recover from Rheumatoid Arthritis, ” from severe neck and joint pain.

Today i have little memories of everything.

7: Seek professional help if needed:

Don’t be afraid to reach out for help from a therapist or counselor if you’re struggling to cope on your own.

They can provide invaluable guidance and support.

8: Lean on your faith

Faith builds hope in our darkest moments.

If you have religious or spiritual beliefs, use them as a source of strength during difficult times. Pray, meditate, or read religious texts for comfort and guidance.

In your darkest moment you can find hope in something greater than yourself. This by far determines even your perspective in life and outlook in life.

I remember a loved one who died of Cancer leaving behind her 1+ year old then who was still supposed to be on breast milk – in everything she was singing hymns, reading scriptures and never lost her faith.

We were never promised lives without challenges but rather we’re promised hope and victory if we keep our faith.

9: Help someone else

One of the best ways to get through tough times is by helping someone else who is also struggling.

Volunteering your time or donating money to a worthy cause can give you a sense of purpose and hope.

10: Develop a “Victor Mindset”

Difficulties come and go.

Whatever situations we find ourselves, no matter how unique it seems, some other persons have faced something similar and their reactions all were determined from their perspective and mindset in life.

Those that approach life with a “Victor mindset” always have an edge as against those with a “Victim mentality.”

CONCLUSION

I hope this has helped anyone going through difficult times to stay hopeful during such periods.

One thought, one change in belief – it can change things.

But more than that, will  bring hope. Hope is the spark of change and the igniter of joy.

P.S: I shared this on NotePD and James Altutcher reached out to me:

James Altutcher reached out to me when i shared this post on NotePD

If you enjoyed this post, COMMENT below and let me know what gives you hope in the darkest moment or time of your life.

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Entrepreneurship

How to put skin in the game in business and in life?

How would you go ahead and get some skin in the game in your business and life?

Put skin in the game meaning

Skin the game is a phrase made popular by the renowned investor Warren Buffett referring to a situation in which high-ranking insiders use their own money to buy stock in the company they are running.

In the very first investment fund he set up, he raised $105,000 ( when that was a lot of money ) from 11 doctors. As a token personal investment he put in $100 to give himself credibility, build confidence and trust, and as an incentive for himself.

Skin in the game meaning origin

The adage is frequently used in politics as well as in business, banking, and gambling. It originated in conversations by race horse owners in the southern USA.

The skin was their horse or investment and the game was the annual gee-gee racing derby.

How making a small commitment can lead to big results:

1: Use skin in the game to increase your chances of success:

When we put skin in the game in any endeavour, we show that we are committed and are willing to risk something important to achieve our goals.

Starting out- you may have to invest every single penny back into the business and your education to develop thick skin. Learn to take Risks when you’re young – especially calculated risks.

“I came to a point where I was fed up and decided to go all-in, invested literally everything I had into the business into a set of skills. Fast forward another 2 years, things started to pay off.”

2: The downside of not putting skin in the game:

Avoiding risk can lead to missed opportunities and failure. You take more ownership of something when you have some skin in the game.

It takes dropping everything that is holding your back include self-doubt and limiting beliefs.

I did start from nothing but I had skin in the game and had been studying various different business models and people who were crushing it in the space.

3: Skin in the game fosters Consistency

To get real skin in the game, figure out what you’re good at, double down on it, and stick to it.

Your first task is to pick a niche and stick to it. How do you pick a niche? By doing your Research and staying consistent.

E.g. in Writing, you need to put in the reps. 40 -50 posts and you’ll gain clarity to what you like.

“Its important to bounce around to figure out what you like, but equally as important to stick to something. Master patience and wait 3-5 years for this to happen.”

4: Use skin in the game to get out of your comfort zone

Sometimes the best way to learn and grow is by putting yourself in uncomfortable situations.

When we put skin in the game, we force ourselves to step outside of our comfort zones and face our fears.

To have “skin in the game” is to have incurred risk (monetary or otherwise) by being involved in achieving a goal.

You might need to test your systems and models on your initial clients in exchange for testimonials or charging the bare minimum.

5: Surround yourself with people smarter than you

This includes Coaching and taking courses. One of the most effective ways to grow in your business and self-development is investing money and time in people ahead of you in the game.

It doesn’t only help in accelerate your learning and implementation at a fast rate, but also builds connections with these individuals

6: Use skin in the game as a form of self-care:

The biggest game you play is …. the game of life.

How big a risk are you taking with yourself?

Putting skin in the game can be a way of showing ourselves that we are worth investing in. We take care of ourselves by taking calculated risks.

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7: Skin in the game helps you stand out

Results differentiate people into high performers and the rest.

Typically 80/20 rule – the significant majority of people are amongst the rest while 20% stand out.

And in reality, real competition becomes a hell of a lot smaller.

The goal is to Refine your frameworks and systems and turn them into a fully-fledged business that rakes in 6 figures a year plus.

8: Attract your Ideal Clients

Because most people are mediocre in what they do. Once people sense your level of mastery as one who has skin in the game they tend to be the ones looking for you and sending customers to you.

The key is to create frameworks and systems to get people to come to you.

Then Refining the frameworks and systems and turning them into a real business that generates high-income a year.

“I got really good at creating frameworks and systems to get people to come to ME instead of the other way around.”

9: Enjoy the Process

We are defined by every moment, process and system we put ourselves in.

So take the time and enjoy the process while making progress.

P.S: This post is inspired by one of my friends & Mentors in the business game, Josh Cousins on lessons learned generating over $1M for his business at 22 (with affiliate marketing & coaching).

CONCLUSION

Use consistency and practice to get skin in the game.

No substitute for practice in anything you want to do. The more you practice, the easier it will be.

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Personal Development Lifestyle

Why you shouldn’t take life too seriously?

Sometimes people take life too seriously and it can lead to stress, burnout as an Entrepreneur and even resentment to what you do or people you know.

What does it mean to take life too seriously?

People that take life too seriously have trouble differentiating between what’s important and the trivial details. Hence are prone to be perfectionist. They also don’t take time to define the “why” as against clinging to the how.

It means being uptight about everything in life including processes and outcomes. You have that feeling that 99% of things are within your control which in reality isn’t.

You’re also perceived by others as being “too strict” or “too hard” not because you’re expected to lower your standards or values but you don’t give room for little mistakes and won’t let things go.

This may lead to one being sensitive or too reactive to events and behavior around you.

Humour is also an indicator of whether or not one takes life too seriously or not. It’s different from sarcasm where the intent may be to deceive or mislead.

When last did you smile or laugh today, hanged out with friends, lend a helping hand and forgave instead of being judgmental?

How to remind yourself not to take life too seriously

1: Life is a Game 

In life, people win sometimes and people lose sometimes. Another reason to take risks.

If you stick to it – with time you get better at spotting patterns. Then you fail less often.

You get bored when all you do is win – I can’t imagine spending much time on any game that allows me win on every challenge.

You’re one call, one email, one idea, away from your biggest opportunity.

2: Life is short 

Life is too short to worry about the little things. Worry doesn’t fix anything. Don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future.

One of the best ways to stop taking life too seriously is to live in the present moment and savor all that it has to offer.

In this game of life, nothing is fixed permanently.

Holding onto anger and resentment will only hurt you in the long run, so try to forgive and move on.

3: Find humor in everyday situations

Learn to laugh at yourself. If you can’t take a joke, you’re likely taking life too seriously.

Learning to laugh at yourself will help you relax and see the lighter side of things. Try not to stress over things that are out of your control, take deep breaths, and take breaks when needed.

4: Be spontaneous

Embrace your inner child.

Do something new and unexpected every day.

Adults often forget how to have fun and enjoy the simple things in life.

Embracing your inner child means letting go of some of your inhibitions and enjoying the moment.

5: Don’t cling to your Opinions

Fact is people are still gonna do what they want to do. They’ll only change when they want to. Your random opinion can hardly change anybody.

I leaned this lesson from J. Altutcher who has an interesting list on “why he doesn’t like to have an opinion.” I can’t say I practice this to the latter. But I do like to listen more than I talk to prevent imposing opinions on others while having conversations.

Plus I don’t talk about what I have zero interest in – politics, tv, news, most sports.

6: Don’t sweat the small stuff

It’s easy to get wrapped up in the little details and stresses of everyday life, but it’s important to remember that they’re just not worth fretting over.

I had a savings box as a kid. On few occasions, my siblings would touch it, not for a selfish need but sometimes just to fulfill a need before my parents were back from work.

And I’d cry and cry. I thought they were messing with my future. In reality – whatever I’d saved could be replaced within a day by the same siblings or my parents.

If only someone had told me that the principle of saving as a habit was more important than how much I had saved. Then i could stop sweating the small stuff.

If you’re writing as a habit – the principle of consistent writing, sharing your message and improving is more important than how perfect it looks, or how many likes it gets.

7: Do things that makes you happy

Life is too short to spend time doing things that don’t make you happy. Find activities, people, or places that bring joy into your life and make an effort to incorporate them into your daily routine.

Figure out what you want, take action and stick to it long term. It’s the key to taking risks when you’re young and not giving up when you meet challenges.

8: Don’t give much f**ks

The other day, I was listening to a Podcast on J. Altucher show with a guest “Richard Cohen “– and he made a statement from his new book which was based on his dad’s powerful art of negotiation. He said something like this:

“Care enough” “But don’t care too much” This applies to not just to NEGOTIATIONS where the one that cares the least wins most of the time but:-

  • Relationships– care too much – you’re friend zoned by the girl or avoided by the guy-
  • School – the biggest lessons in life are learned outside the classroom
  • Money – money comes to you the most when you don’t focus on making it
  • Happiness – chase happiness and you realize how fleeting it is rather chase purpose

9: Don’t take Criticism personally

How you handle criticism tells a lot on how emotionally mature and secure you are and how much you see yourself as a leader or a follower.

How much approval do you need from others? Its important to stop seeking external validation from others.

Do you have an entitlement mentality? Learn to overcome entitlement mentality. The best leaders don’t take criticism personally.

It starts with you.

Do you criticize to condemn or want to modify behaviour? Do you believe in people over their mistakes?

A leader takes the blame and gives credit away often.

10: Stop arguing to win

Steve Covey had the perfect antidote to this type of mindset – “Think Win-Win” in his book Seven Habits of Highly effective people. Your goal is to find a common ground.

I’ve noticed a good way to know you’re going out of the line is when you start raising your voice. He went on to write another book to drive this point further “the Third Alternative.”

In any conversation, you don’t have to agree, but don’t be known to be the guy that’s always arguing. Besides I don’t know anybody that has built a lot of stuff that thrives on arguments.

11: Bonus point: Learn from people way ahead of you.

Making effort to reinvent the wheel is a waste of effort most of the times.

Alex Hormzi, made a statement on learning frameworks from others “if you can’t make more than what they’re doing presently – shut up and do everything they say to the latter”

You’ve got to implement before you can make tweaks.

Invest in a Coach. Find people way ahead of you and surround yourself with their thinking and actions.

It robs off on you as long as you keep your mind open.

CONCLUSION

Don’t take life too seriously guys , because no one is making it out of earth alive.

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Entrepreneurship Personal Development

10 rules of Happiness to find your Bliss

What are some golden rules of happiness?

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Nothing wrong with it. Pleasure is linked to dopamine; serotonin is linked to happiness. Serotonin regulates mood and its presence is what keeps you happy.

10 Golden rules I found that make you happy:

1: Be grateful for what you have:

Expressing gratitude has been linked with increased levels of happiness. Being thankful for the good in your life can help increase satisfaction and contentment.

Start everyday with 3 things you’re grateful for.

2: Live in the present moment:

According to some reports, up to 80% of our worries are about things that either don’t exist or that we can’t do anything about.

Most things we worry about are a creation of our mind. We worry about problems even when they’re not yet problems. It’s all a matter of perspective.

You think you have it all worse – someone is wishing to be in your shoes. Your biggest obstacle can be your stepping stone. Worry can come from fear, ego, pain etc – whatever is driving your worry – if you make effort to become aware of it e.g. through journaling and take action – then you can develop a better perspective and it can go away.

Here’s how Sean Anthony, of Email Side Hustle put it:

“If you don’t have your first client? Don’t worry about managing 10.

If you haven’t sent out any cold messages yet? Don’t worry about what to say when someone responds.

If a client hasn’t asked you about specific tech yet? Don’t worry about trying to learn every one.

We only worry about problems when they’re actually problems!”

Remember, actions brings clarity! Not worry! Learning to live in the present moment can help reduce stress and anxiety and increase happiness.

3: Get plenty of exercise:

Apart from what you put in your body, exercise is a key ingredient to happiness. Exercise not only benefits our physical health, but also our mental well-being.

Numerous studies have shown that exercise can help reduce stress, improve mood, and promote feelings of calmness and well-being. Walking is the simplest activity that can elevate your mood.

4: Connect with others:

Social connection is a key ingredient of happiness. Whether it’s spending time with loved ones, participating in community activities, or simply connecting with others online, relationships are essential for happiness.

One way to connect with others that works every time is via Food. Share meals with others. This was the principle in the book, “Never eat alone.” I may hardly cook but I can take you out for a “healthy meal.”

5: Do something meaningful:

People who have a sense of purpose in their lives tend to be happier than those who don’t. Never get stuck doing what makes no meaning to you.

Doing something that is meaningful and contributes to something larger than yourself can add purpose to your life and lead to true happiness. This may mean finding your passion or just filtering things you do by how much meaning you feel they contribute to the world.

6: Don’t Hate

Let go of what’s dragging you down. Unfortunately by just being yourself, sometimes people don’t like you. You can’t control to an extent – “haters”.

Infact, haters are your confirmation that you’re doing something right! It’s easy to wake up angry about someone and tag them with something unforgivable.

But realize that feelings are just data, you don’t have to act when they come. They send a message e.g. the person said something disrespectful etc but when you think of it or react aim never to hate.

Some of those people who hurt you were healing too. Stop hating the old them forever. You can limit your association with “toxic” people, but don’t be holding onto hate. People are going to love you or hate you, but don’t let either bring you down or put you too far up on a pedestal.

Lead with love.

7: Simplify your life

No matter how boring it sounds – it takes being proactive to live a simple life. This is something most people learn the hard way. We allow burnout and devastating situations to make us realize how much we need less than what we had convinced ourselves prior.

Living simply doesn’t in anyway shorten your dreams – just don’t confuse your goals to trying to impress others.

Warren Buffet is known to have lived in the same house for over 10 years. It doesn’t just apply to lifestyle.

Want to get better at writing? Look at your sentence structures. Identify complicated sentences… and simplify them. This is top reason editing is what makes writing great.

When I was learning ecommerce for the first time – I was shocked to learn the most successful startup stores are “Single product stores” as against general stores. Simplicity wins and increases happiness to yourself (by reducing stress) and for your audience/customers (by reducing friction).

8: Give back to others

Giving is a life hack to be happy. You create experiences for yourself and those that benefit from you.

And remember, its more fun to give than to receive.

Today I received a gift from someone at work who I hardly get along with. To pull her legs, I said “for what?” She smiled and responded “you don’t like X (the gift)?”

Lead by giving and growing, and most importantly have fun.

9: Expect less

Each time you raise your expectation from others you put your happiness in their hands. Your high expectation may be a way to control others in disguise.

You may not be consciously aware of your expectations, but they are there nonetheless.

Lower your expectation on others and be kind to yourself.

Stress is nothing more than the gap between expectation and reality, tighten that gap and the stress will naturally drop.

My friend, Coach Maxim, put it perfectly and gave a solution to expecting less from others at the end:

“The way to become truly happy – is not to have any expectations from anyone. Think about it – every time you got angry or upset is because you expected something to happen and it didn’t.

Be it with a client that supposed to sign up with you , a meeting with a friend that was suddenly canceled , a planned date that needed to be rescheduled or expecting having things fall into place – so you can take action.

If you will live like that – you will always expect something to happen and you will lose the edge of being proactive to create what you want and make things your way.

So instead of expecting things to happen – make them happen!”

10. Do something that brings you Joy

Do something that makes you happy every day, no matter how small.

For me its:

  • Writing
  • Reading interesting books
  • Taking walks
  • Engaging in fun conversations with loved ones.
  • Helping clients achieve their next level of transformation through coaching.

Conclusion

I figured out the Golden rules that makes me happy. And then I do most of those things on a daily basis.

You too can start today, jot down right now what makes your happy. It could be:

  • Looking after your body eg workout, exercise.
  • Doing meaningful work that helps  others.
  • Cherishing your relationships and the time you have with loved ones.
  • Listening toy favourite music to change your state.
  • Enhancing your personal development by reading or learning.
  • Being in an uncluttered environment.

Hopefully these ideas 💡 will spark some of your own. Beyond sticking to your rules of happiness, ensure that you have clarity around your mission & purpose & start living it right away.