Beyond Keeping Score: Embracing a Wholistic Approach to Life

Are you constantly trying to keep score in the game of life? Many of us are fixated on measuring our progress and accomplishments through societal standards like grades, salaries, and material possessions.

However, constantly comparing ourselves to others and striving for superficial markers of success can be detrimental to our overall well-being. In this post, we explore the concept of ‘keeping score’ in life and why it’s important to look beyond traditional metrics like grades and salaries to truly make an impact in the world.”

Now how do we keep track of our progress and accomplishments? We all have different goals and measuring sticks for what constitutes a “successful” life.

Imagine asking someone out of the blue:-

Are you married now?

How many kids do you have?

How much do you earn a month?

If they don’t ignore you or try to help you reframe the question – don’t be surprised if they get mean with you or don’t take you seriously.

I kept wondering why she told me she was “taking a break” when she was abroad furthering her studies. I’ve found out keeping scores for people whether consciously or unconsciously can be embarrassing and even make them get distant from you.

We keep score because it helps us to gauge our progress and understand how well we are doing. It also motivates us to improve our performance.

Take for example Grades and school is a perfect example. High school was such a horrifying moment in my life and existence. I was doing everything to hang out with the cool kids, keep scores with grades and unfortunately we were all feasting on each other’s insecurities.

Who was taller, could interact with more girls, pointed nose, wore fancy wears, spend more money YET make good grades.

Keeping scores can mess with relationships and affects our decisions.

Beyond Scores = making impact- How many books I’ve read? – How many posts I’ve written?

What I forgot was how much I actually enjoyed the habits that got me the results I was making my identity.

1: Read a ton of books for fun

Literally read anything I could lay my hands on. Reading is by far one life hack to get ahead of the game anywhere you find yourself.

Reading books is an essential life hack that can help you get ahead in life. It can provide you with knowledge, new ideas, and perspectives that you may not have encountered otherwise.

Reading for fun can also be a great way to relax and unwind, and it can be a source of joy and inspiration in your life.

2: Enjoyed learning

If you make learning a priority and give it enough effort and time – you find how you get to enjoy learning as a process without so much emphasis on what you could do with it.

Making learning a priority and giving it enough effort and time can help you enjoy the process of learning. This can involve finding ways to make learning more interesting or engaging, such as taking courses or attending seminars in areas that interest you.

By enjoying the process of learning, you may find that you become more motivated to pursue new knowledge and skills.

Think of any major Science or specifically Maths tutors you know – how much of what they know are they practically applying in real life? But learning new ways of solving problems is part of their joy and career.

3: – Taught others

When my Dad was running a computer school – he made me assist him by teaching adults the basic computer programs.

I’ve always been a fan of teaching others. Never related it to anything pride.

Mostly because of how i got interested in learning things myself. My Elder brother then was naturally good at grasping things and he was the only one that was patient enough had the best practical examples to teach me amongst other siblings.

Once I tapped from him – I looked for other people I could impact on.

Teaching others can be a great way to reinforce your own learning and help others at the same time. This can involve volunteering to teach others in your community or sharing your knowledge and skills with friends or colleagues.

By teaching others, you may find that you gain a deeper understanding of the material and develop your communication skills.

4: Gained confidence from knowledge

When I totally struggled with learning – my confidence was in shambles. As i always felt embarrassed when people ask me questions like “Look at them – do they have two heads?”

Whenever you find someone who knows their stuff – you find how their energy and level of confidence is attractive.

Having knowledge and expertise in a particular area can be a source of confidence and self-esteem. By knowing your stuff, you may feel more self-assured and better equipped to handle challenges or solve problems in that area.

This can be particularly valuable in professional settings, where confidence and competence are highly valued.

5: The Wholistic aspect of my life

Whatever you make your sole identity may turn out a recipe for unhappiness and bondage if you’re not careful.

If you only see yourself as a “good entrepreneur” and ignore your family, relationships or even faith – you might end up with a broken home and probably depressing life.

It is essential to maintain a balanced approach to life and avoid making any one area your sole identity. This can involve finding ways to balance your work, family, relationships, and personal interests. By taking a holistic approach to life, you may find that you feel more fulfilled and happy overall.

6: You Only Live Once:

What do you want your legacy to be? Think about what you want people to remember about you after you’re gone. What kind of impact do you want to leave on the world? Are there any specific things you want to accomplish.

It’s essential to consider what kind of legacy you want to leave behind and what impact you want to make on the world.

By setting specific goals and working towards them, you may find that you feel more motivated and fulfilled in your life.

It can be helpful to regularly assess your progress towards these goals and make adjustments as necessary.


Scoring often dictates the choices we make in life. It can lead us to make rash decisions or ones that are not in our best interests.

Scoring often dictates the choices we make in life. It can lead us to make rash decisions or ones that are not in our best interests.

By moving beyond scores and focusing on the things that truly matter, such as learning, teaching, and making a positive impact on the world, we can find greater fulfillment and happiness in our lives.

1 thought on “Beyond Keeping Score: Embracing a Wholistic Approach to Life”

  1. Love this article! I appreciate the importance of focusing on your own health and well-being and not comparing yourself to others.

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